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the cinnamon peeler's wife

1.28.2005 at 10:35:00 AM

vagaries of existence

i apologize for the dearth of posts. school work (or at least my attempt to bs it) is keeping me very busy. well actually not so much work for my classes, but other stuff. so in the pipeline, i am applying for jobs (both for the govt and a bunch of ngos). additionally i have applied for various clerkships at any international adjudicatory body (itlos, icsid, icc, icj, etc.). i have applied to international law llm programs just to live in europe. also i am chairing the woodside speaker series and we are focusing on education, poverty, and disparity. so any speaker suggestions would be welcome. we are working on getting j. kozol (read his savage inequalities).
in terms of classes, besides the normal law ones (international ip, copyright, 14th amendment, professional responsibility) i am taking an arabic grammar class (oh so much fun) and a poli sci grad class (peace and conflict). what can i say i am a glutton for punishment. so that is what is up in my life. here are a few interesting tidbits for you all:

1. going to the chapel and i am going to get... no. no more weddings! since thanksgiving i have gone to a handful of weddings, mostly desi. and of course people continue to get engaged: desi and otherwise. i am tired of all the pressure, ostentation, guilt, gossip, and craziness that is a desi wedding. but there is nothing new about that and people continue to discuss marriage, relationships, and all that jazz. however recent discussion and some interesting articles sparked some new topics (and you all thought we had talked relationships to death!). all my friends are in three critical phases: 1- worrying about/hating marriage and yet talking about it nonstop (i.e. single) 2- in the lalaland that is the engagement/honeymoon phase and yes they can not stop talking about their angelic significant other (you are officially annoying) and 3- the "on my second child, have been married for years" girls who keep trying to convince the rest of us of their wedded bliss (we are not buying it!). anyway while i give my heartfelt congratulations to those in phases 2 and 3, i have to love all my girls (and guys) in #1. all i can say is for all this talking, phase 1 is fun. now when i say this people will respond that i am just trying to convince myself that i don't want to get married. it is not that, when (and if) it happens it will be (hopefully) wonderful. but right now life is fun and great. so for everyone fretting, stop. you don't have to wake up in the middle of the night for the crying baby. you get up and go whenever you want to. okay so you have deal with your mother's nagging, but from what i hear that nevers stops anyway. so let's enjoy the freedom! anyway if you are a smart woman, marriage is not a cakewalk! the men just want mommy article in the nytimes sparked much discussion among my friends and my inbox was flooded with comments about it. it was something we have always believed anyway that was just affirmed in the nyt. i watched 'love actually' again recently and the article made me see the movie very differently. the paradox faced by women reminded me of "women don't ask". this book is a must read for all professional women: how can one be assertive and not be labeled bitchy?
also on the topic a fairly comical look at non-desi (read white) weddings from a desi perspective. here's a great line: desi weddings have devolved into games of one-upmanship, with each family trying to outdo the last in terms of extravagance and ostentation. I'm expecting the next invitation sent to our home by carrier pigeon or perhaps inscribed in bricks of solid gold.
well i am (gulp) off to another one in philly next weekend!



2. galvanize. the new single off the chemical brother's new album: push the button. very catchy. something about it makes you listen. it samples some arabic music and it features q-tip from a tribe called quest. watch the video.

3. my poli sci class is full of first and second year phd students. for me it is a very interesting sociological study. the difference between grad students and law students is quite apparent. the jargon, the dress, and the outlook between graduate and professional students is interesting. as an outsider there is something romantic about the pure pursuit of knowledge that is academia, unsullied by the drive/race that is professional school. but on further thought (and listening to my sister suffer in grad school), i realize that i need a break from school.
anyway in the midst of yesterday's discussion of deterrence and nuclear war, the prof decided to bring up writing style. most grad students have heard the pleas about elegant writing. i totally agree, academic writing that is grating to the ear and abrasive to the mind is not good writing. dr. schweller reminds us that 9 out of 10 times, if you read something and it hurts your head this is not because you are too dumb to understand. rather it is due to the writers lack of ideas cloaked in verbal incoherence. using complicated sentences with a lot of big words does not result in good ideas. elegant and enlightening ideas are capable of being expressed in terse and simple language. beautiful prose has a cadence to it that makes it enjoyable to read. anyway he mentioned a great book for style: ten lessons on grace and clarity. i must admit that i like this book. it has good examples and focuses on modern american writing. i only wish my writing was graceful. on a totally random sidenote, in the same class someone mentioned america's plan for a 'gay bomb'. i thought he was loony but no it is true.

4. 12% of Americans believe that Noah's wife was Joan of Arc! so we are a country that believes God speaks in the bible but can't be bothered to read it. anyway the la times carries an interesting article showing while americans might be more religious than europeans, we are by far more ignorant about religion. comparative religion is a common topic in european schools, but alas the failures of the american public school system abound.

Blogger Syeeda said...

Hey, you forgot about phase #4--married, no kids and not trying to have any if at all possible (for now--Allah is the best of planners), not pressuring anyone to get married or trying to convince them to get married. just trying to survive law school:).

I'm glad you came to your enlightened conclusion. definitely enjoy singlehood. unbounded decisions are a thing of the past when you are married! not that that is a bad thing, it's just reality.

you sound uber busy. i can't wait to hear where your adventures will take you next:). give my salams to your adorable (but nagging) mom...Syeeda  

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Blogger Deanna said...

Why are you dissing us married people? I still am in wedded bliss, after one kid and another one on the way, inshaAllah :) Why can't we all just enjoy where we are at? Every phase just gets better, so savor each one.
p.s. Go T$, you make us proud!  

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Blogger Azher said...

I read every word this time. What the hell? I thought you usually throw in some thing basic for me, you should know by now that I hate thinking very deeply and if the only stupid thing you will post is about getting married then I just might have to not read long posts. So remember next time less thinky stuff (i.e your sociological study of non-law students) and more on stupid things like what you had for breakfast and why it had no nutritional value. I know you will come up with something.  

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Blogger Azher said...

I read every word this time. What the hell? I thought you usually throw in some thing basic for me, you should know by now that I hate thinking very deeply and if the only stupid thing you will post is about getting married then I just might have to not read long posts. So remember next time less thinky stuff (i.e your ongoing sociological study of non-law students) and more on stupid things like what you had for breakfast and why it had no nutritional value. I know you will come up with something.  

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

1. "you cra-a-azy!" (the chick patch carries on with pre-gloria in the damned and the beautiful)

2. i like how you now channel your list making compulsion onto your blog format. was that a concious decision or just your ocd manifesting itself

3. on a side note, this sister you refer to in your blog sounds cool and pretty, but not in an intimidating bitchy way (i did read women don't ask, it just depressed me about the state of things and about how much i suck, thanks...my low self esteem needed to take a further plunge)...  

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

so Noah's wife wasn't Joan of Ark? Huh. also I could sell you my book on grace and clarity for half the price of the other book. me write concise, very grammatical like.  

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

wait Noah wasn't married to Joan of Ark? Huh. on a side note I can sell you a book on clarity and grace in writing for less. me talk concise, good grammatically like.  

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Anonymous Anonymous said...

hmm it appears that either two people had very similar comments or a single beautiful person believed that an original comment did not appear and proceeded to write a similar comment. interesting.  

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Anonymous rudi said...

where do i fit in? (sorry...i know this is terribly late!!!)  

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